Saturday, April 18, 2009

Build bridges not walls

Greetings!

Most people tend to think about themselves first and foremost. It's human nature to "look out for number one," to put your own needs and desires before the needs of others. It's easy enough to get caught up in your own life and problems, but when you do that, you're creating a bigger problem by closing yourself off to many wonderful things in life and many wonderful people.

When you build bridges by reaching out to and connecting with others, it may add a few problems and complications, but it's worth the trouble because it also brings warmth, friendship, and love into your life. It is a matter of give and take, and it does require some effort, patience, and perseverance. The bridge doesn't build itself, and sometimes others aren't so keen at first to see you building in their direction. But if everyone got stuck in the me-first mentality and built nothing but walls, the world would be a different place.

Building a bridge begins with you changing your outlook towards others in your life – your colleagues, those you work with, family, friends, etc. When you begin to think in terms of what others want and need, the framework is in place. Then that bridge grows a little stronger each time you give of yourself to somebody else.

It might take a little courage to cross that bridge the first time, when you're not sure how well it's going to hold or how you'll be received on the other side, but you'll be glad you did. Remember that for every unselfish act, for every step you take to reach out to another, you will be rewarded someday, for what goes around comes around and what you give will come back to you again someday