8 ways to say no

8 ways to say no

It is just a two-letter word, but not a dirty one. It is the simplest thing to say, yet we hesitate to say it. The inability to say NO can cause mental stress? we do not want to do something, yet we cannot refuse, as we always want to be good. The moment I learnt to say
NO I become happy person and now I can say NO to people without any guilt.

1. PRACTICE SAYING NO
I have a photo in my office, which shows Rama looking at the golden deer that Sita is pointing at. If only Rama had said NO, he could have saved Sita and many other headaches and heartaches! Saying NO without hurting others is a skill. When my wife requested me to purchase a Toyota, I had to say NO because I already have a Honda City, and thus saved myself from the stress I could have experienced while trying to repay the loan I would have taken. If you say no once you will get used to the word and will say it with ease and without guilt.

2. GIVE PRIORITY TO YOURSELF
Think about your needs and wellbeing first. There is nothing bad about it. Don nott feel guilty. Recently a close relative asked me for a loan of Rs 3 lakh for a year. Although he had promised to repay the loan in time and with interest, I said NO and saved myself from sleepless nights, thinking about the possibilities of not getting back the money. I also saved myself from straining the relationship in the
long run.

3. IT REQUIRES DETERMINATION
Years ago, I did not say NO to alcohol and sweets, which could have saved me from pancreas surgery and two heart bypasses, followed by diabetes, blood pressure, glaucoma, and what not! Ten years ago I learnt to say no to all such goodies and here I am today, fit as a fiddle. Similarly, saying no to a
friend or a relative also requires determination. Once you are determined you do not want to give any more, your day is mad

4. REALISE THE WEAKNESS
of not been able to say no. If Yudhistir had said no to gambling, Mahabharata wouldn?t have happened. Realise that you need to set boundaries for yourself and allowing anybody to overstep will be harmful. Your no should be a firm one and don?t give up under
pressure.

5. STICK TO YOUR PLAN
If saying YES to someone throws your other plans to the wind, ask yourself if it is worth it. You can say no to parties if you have other plans. Just because you have been invited does not mean you have to go. Learn to do things that make you happy.

6. EXPLAIN YOUR REASON
Tell your friend why you are unable to do the work for her. Make it clear that your reason to say no is not unreasonable. Since I have learnt to say NO to my friends and relatives?of course, when I feel it is not possible to accommodate their requests, I am a happier
person living without guilt.

7. NO CAN BE BENEFICIAL
Do not let anybody take you for granted. Saying NO is your right. Let others respect your right.

8. BUY TIME
If you hesitate to say NO, then buy some time. If you cannot say no to the person directly, tell him to give you some time to think. Get back him later and tell him politely that you could not accommodate his request.

4 THINGS YOU PROBABLY NEVER KNEW YOUR MOBILE PHONE COULD DO

4 THINGS YOU PROBABLY NEVER KNEW YOUR MOBILE PHONE COULD DO


There are a few things that can be done in times of grave emergencies.
Your mobile phone can actually be a lifesaver or an emergency tool
for survival. Check out the things that you can do with it:

FIRST: Emergency
The Emergency Number worldwide for Mobile is 112. If you find
yourself out of the coverage area of your mobile; network and there
is an emergency, dial 112 and the mobile will search any existing
network to establish the emergency number for you, and interestingly
this number 112 can be dialed even if the keypad is locked. Try it
out.

SECOND: Have you locked your keys in the car?
Does your car have remote keyless entry? This may come in handy
someday. Good reason to own a cell phone: If you lock your keys in the
car and the spare keys are at home, call someone at home on their
mobile phone from your cell phone. Hold your cell phone about a foot
from your car door and have the person at your home press the unlock
button, holding it near the mobile phone on their end. Your car
will unlock.
Saves someone from having to drive your keys to you. Distance is no
object. You could be hundreds of miles away, and if you can reach
someone who has the other 'remote' for your car, you can unlock the
doors (or the trunk).

Editor's Note: It works fine! We tried it out and it unlocked our car
over a mobile phone!'

THIRD: Hidden Battery Power
Imagine your mobile battery is very low. To activate, press the keys
*3370# your mobile will restart with this reserve and the instrument
will show a 50% increase in battery. This reserve will get charged
when you charge your mobile next time.

FOURTH: How to disable a STOLEN mobile phone?
To check your Mobile phone's serial number, key in the following
digits on your phone: * # 0 6 # A 15 digit code will appear on the
screen. This number is unique to your handset. Write it down and keep
it somewhere safe. When your phone gets stolen, you can phone your
service provider and give them this code. They will then be able to
block your handset so even if the thief changes the SIM card, your
phone will be totally useless. You probably won't get your phone back,
but at least you know that whoever stole it can't use/sell it either.
If everybody does this, there would be no point in people stealing
mobile phones.

ATM - PIN Number Reversal - Good to Know
If you should ever be forced by a robber to withdraw money from an ATM
machine, you can notify the police by entering your PIN # in reverse.
For example, if your pin number is 1234, then you would put in 4321.
The ATM system recognizes that your PIN number is backwards from the
ATM card you placed in the machine. The machine will still give you
the money you requested, but unknown to the robber; the police will
be immediately dispatched to the location.

This information was recently broadcast on CTV by Crime Stoppers
however it is seldom used because people just don't know about it....
Please pass this along to everyone.

This is the kind of information people don't mind receiving, so pass
it on to your family and friends.

Some Important laws

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LAW OF QUEUE: If you change queues, the one you have left will start to move faster than the one you are in now।

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LAW OF TELEPHONE : When you dial a wrong number, you never get an engaged one.

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LAW OF MECHANICAL REPAIR : After your hands become coated with grease, your nose will begin to itch.

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LAW OF THE WORKSHOP: Any tool, when dropped, will roll to the least accessible corner.

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LAW OF THE ALIBI: If you tell the boss you were late for work because you had a flat tire, the next morning you will have a flat tire.

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BATH THEOREM: When the body is immersed in water, the telephone rings.

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LAW OF ENCOUNTERS: The probability of meeting someone you know increases when you are with someone you don't want to be seen with.

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LAW OF THE RESULT: When you try to prove to someone that a machine won't work, it will!

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LAW OF BIOMECHANICS : The severity of the itch is inversely proportional to the reach.

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THEATRE RULE: People with the seats at the furthest from the aisle arrive last.

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LAW OF COFFEE: As soon as you sit down for a cup of hot coffee, your boss will ask you to do something which will last until the coffee is cold.

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Chanakya quotes..............worth reading !

Chanakya quotes..............worth reading !


"A person should not be too honest.
Straight trees are cut first
and Honest people are victimised first."
Chanakya quotes (Indian politician, strategist and writer, 350 BC 75 BC)

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"Even if a snake is not poisonous,
it should pretend to be venomous."
Chanakya quotes (Indian politician, strategist and writer, 350 BC-275 BC)

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"The biggest guru-mantra is: Never share your secrets with anybody. ! It will destroy you."
Chanakya quotes (Indian politician, strategist and writer, 350 BC-275 BC)

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"There is some self-interest behind every friendship.
There is no Friendship without self-interests.
This is a bitter truth."
Chanakya quotes (Indian politician, strategist and writer, 350 BC-275 BC)

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"Before you start some work, always ask yourself three questions - Why am I doing it, What the results might be and Will I be successful. Only when you think deeply
and find satisfactory answers to these questions, go ahead."
Chanakya quotes (Indian politician, strategist and writer, 350 BC-275 BC)

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"As soon as the fear approaches near, attack and destroy it."
Chanakya quotes (Indian politician, strategist and writer, 350 BC-275 BC)

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"Once you start working on something,
don't be afraid of failure and
don't abandon it.
People who work sincerely are the happiest."
Chanakya quotes (Indian politician, strategist and writer, 350 BC-275BC)

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"The fragrance of flowers spreads
only in the direction of the wind.
But the goodness of a person spreads in all direction."
Chanakya quotes (Indian politician, strategist and writer, 350 BC-275BC)

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"A man is great by deeds, not by birth."
Chanakya quotes (Indian politician, strategist and writer, 350 BC-275BC)

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"Treat your kid like a darling for the first five years.
For the next five years, scold them.
By the time they turn sixteen, treat them like a friend.
Your grown up children are your best friends."
Chanakya quotes (Indian politician, strategist and writer, 350 BC-275BC)

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"Books are as useful to a stupid person
as a mirror is useful to a blind person."
Chanakya quotes (Indian politician, strategist and writer, 350 BC-275BC)

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"Education is the best friend.
An educated person is respected everywhere.
Education beats the beauty and the youth."
Chanakya quotes (Indian politician, strategist and writer, 350 BC-275BC)

The 'Big Rocks' Secret

Greetings! To All,

The 'Big Rocks' Secret

An expert on the subject of time management was speaking to a group of business students. He stood in front of these high-powered overachievers, pulled out a one-gallon, wide-mouthed Mason jar, and set it on a table in front of him. Then he produced about a dozen fist-sized rocks and carefully placed them, one at a time, into the jar. When the jar was filled to the top and no more rocks would fit inside, he asked, "Is this jar full?"

Everyone in the class said, "Yes."

Then he said, "Really?" He reached under the table and pulled out a bucket of gravel. Then he dumped some gravel in and shook the jar, causing pieces of gravel to work themselves down into the spaces between the big rocks. Then he asked the group once more, "Is the jar full?"

By this time the class was on to him. "Probably not," one of them answered.

"Good!" he replied. He reached under the table and brought out a bucket of sand. He started dumping the sand in and it went into all the spaces left between the rocks and the gravel. Once more he asked the question, "Is this jar full?"

"No!" the class shouted.

Once again he said, "Good!" Then he grabbed a pitcher of water and began to pour it in until the jar was filled to the brim.

Then he looked up at the class and asked, "What is the point of this illustration?"

One eager beaver raised his hand and said, "The point is, no matter how full your schedule is, if you try really hard you can always fit some more things into it!"

"No," the speaker replied, "that's not the point. The truth this illustration teaches us is this: If you don't put the big rocks in first, you'll never get them in at all."

The big rocks symbolize our top priorities. What are the "big rocks" in your life? Are you putting them in first?